When feedback is not a gift

5 stars: so enthusiastic about the book they didn't have any substantive feedback. The reality feedback is only a gift from the 3-4 star people. How many people is that in life? That dig deep to give us thoughtful feedback? That can caringly give that feedback? Precious few. When we're told to uncritically accept feedback. Internalizing feedback from the wrong sources can be very destructive. Accepting no feedback is as pathological as accepting all feedback. We default to taking that feedback especially to heart: they control our careers and even lives.